Relationship Inventory
Is Your Body Still Living in an Old Story?
21 Questions to Help You Reconnect — From the Inside Out
There’s a moment in every relationship when the mind says:
“I know better…”
but the body still flinches, freezes, or shuts down.
That moment isn’t proof that something is broken.
It’s proof that something is waiting to be seen, felt, and held with care.
This isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping your body catch up to your heart.
The Relationship Inventory is here to guide that process.
Even when our hearts are open and our minds understand…
our nervous systems may still be running outdated scripts.
The Relationship Inventory isn’t a quiz or a worksheet.
It’s an invitation — to pause, breathe, and listen to the stories your body is still holding.
These 21 questions (three sets of seven) will help you:
Uncover hidden patterns in your nervous system
Speak the longings you've kept quiet
Move from performance to presence
Reconnect with yourself and your partner — not just in your head, but in your body
Whether you do this alone or with your partner, I created this as a sacred pause in a busy world — a space to tune back in to what really matters.
Ted Riter is a relationship guide, intimacy coach, and former rabbi who helps individuals and couples move from performance to presence. With over 30 years of experience in spiritual leadership, men’s work, and embodied coaching, Ted brings a rare blend of depth, tenderness, and no-nonsense clarity.
He specializes in helping people rewrite old nervous system patterns so they can show up more fully in love — with themselves, their partners, and the Divine.
People often say:
“With Ted, I feel more myself than I ever have. Seen. Challenged. Loved. Held.”
He’s the creator of The Wisdom Circle, Surrender in Power, and the upcoming book 49 Days to Deeper Connection.
More than anything, Ted is here to walk with you back to your truest self.
